All of us have been lectured a time or two. Most of us have lectured our kids. The goal should be to make the lecture be remembered. Ideally the recipient will reference the lecture at a critical time and heed the advice from that lecture.
Of all the lectures, I have received one stands out. I heard it from a Chicago judge in traffic court. I was working as a warehouseman and made occasional deliveries. The company had a Chevy Suburban. That was back when Suburbans were actually trucks. It was also long before the internet. I had to make a delivery on Pulaski in Chicago. I did not know if the address was north or south of (I55) the Stevenson Expressway. I guessed wrong. I turned down a dead end side street. Pulled into a driveway and backed out. Who knew that this was an illegal Y turn – not me.
Anyway, I went to court to fight it. I was making $7 an hour, with a wife and young child at home. I really couldn't afford the ticket. The judge asked who had plea agreements. He disposed of their cases. Then he asked who was going to plead not guilty, but did not have a lawyer. About 25 of us raised our hands. One by one he took our names and had us all stand before the bench. Then he gave us a lecture and dismissed all of the cases.
The judge kept repeating the words Tempus Fugit. That is Latin for time flies. He spent about 20 minutes lecturing us on how little time we saved by running a red light. He did the math on how little time we saved by speeding. No, I did not raise my hand and asked how much time my criminal act had saved. The judge told us that we would never speed enough to make up for the time it took to come to court that day. He probably didn't know that I would drive well over 4,000,000 miles. I didn't either.
I think of that lecture at least once a day. If I am doing my 63 MPH and come up on that proverbial 62 MPH truck 2 miles before my exit, I wait. That light turns yellow, I don't push the orange. Every day someone simultaneously passes me and takes the exit. I think. Was it worth it? 35 years later, I am still listening to that lecture. At some point every day that lecture enters my mind. I apply it to my driving decisions. I guess that judge made his point.